Okay - so I've been thinking of posting this for quite some time. As most of you know, I have a big mouth. Over the years I have (somewhat) learned to guard my words and "think before I speak..." - Sometimes, however, it's okay to rant. I did during the last presidential elections and it felt good...however, this is NOT going to be a political rant. Well, at least I don't think it is. Rarely do I NOT edit myself when I'm typing, but this is going to be one of those times. I'm hacked off and I don't care who knows it.
Since when did it become okay for children to back-talk their parents? Since when did it become okay for children to sass and get ugly and throw fits and throw toys and not mind and disrespect? Since when did it become acceptable for parents to sit by and watch their children have screaming-mimi hissy fits and subject all of us to their tantrums? Since when did it become okay to allow children to run society? (Or at the very least, their parents' homes?) Since when did it become okay for children to hit and kick and scream at their parents, or other children and NOT face consequences? Since FREAKING WHEN?
I have a two year old. This weekend I was actually given condolences when a couple next to me in Hobby Lobby noted Thomas and I picking out stuff for Malachi's birthday party and they asked how old he was. (He wasn't with us, he was with my parents a few aisles over and NO I didn't know that because he was screaming...I knew that because my parents were helping us look for stuff for his party and I could hear him giggling!) CONDOLENCES when I said he is fixing to be two. Why does that make me so angry? BECAUSE, MY NAME IS JAMIE ALLEN AND EVEN THOUGH I HAVE A TWO YEAR OLD, IT DOES NOT MEAN HE'S TERRIBLE!!!! Why, you ask? BECAUSE I DISCIPLINE HIS LITTLE BACKSIDE AND TEACH HIM THAT THERE ARE CONSEQUENCES TO EVERY SINGLE ACTION HE TAKES! He has learned this from the time that he could comprehend the word no. He got a spanking this weekend because he wouldn't pick up his toys when he was told to do so.
I am so completely over seeing children ALL AROUND ME who misbehave. And NO this is NOT directed at any one person in particular. So, if you're reading this thinking that I'm talking about you, I'm not. UNLESS IT APPLIES TO YOU!!! Children are NOT supposed to get away with murder, or, more close to home, with stabbing each other in junior high.
Unless you start to raise your children properly from the GET GO, then be prepared to visit them in juvenile hall because they decided to take a knife to school and stab a classmate who made them mad!!! It's okay for your children to hear the word NO. It's okay for them to see disappointment on your face. It's okay for them to see ANGER in your face because they are disrespecting/disobeying you. It's okay for them to know that you're mad. (Don't read that it's okay for you to beat them...that's NOT what I'm saying) BUT, it IS okay for them to be disciplined BECAUSE you are angry at an action they took!!! I would NEVER EVER EVER HURT Malachi. But, boy, let me tell you, I have swatted his backside because he disobeyed me. And, you know what...because of that, I get compliments CONSTANTLY on how well behaved he is. He's not SCARED of me, but he does RESPECT my husband and I and he KNOWS there are boundaries.
He's not allowed to run all over the church just because he wants to and the pastor isn't preaching. He's taught to respect it, ESPECIALLY the sanctuary. He's not allowed to climb on the table at home or jump on the couch or throw his toys. WHY? Because he's being taught to take CARE of his toys and OUR couch and OUR table. He's not a little beast because we are raising him in the FEAR AND ADMONITION OF THE LORD! The Lord chastises and punishes us when we sin against Him...why should we teach our children ANY DIFFERENTLY? The only thing that I see that accomplishing is giving them a sense of entitlement...not to mention confusing them. On one hand our biggest goal in life is to raise our children for the Lord, teaching them to respect, revere and YES FEAR Him. But, on the other hand, we give them everything they want, cower to their EVERY whim only to hope that when they're adults they respect God? How can we expect them to respect the Lord and Fear Him if they don't even FEAR US! We can't dish out even 1/2 of what the Lord can (and has and will) - Man parents, I don't know about you, but that strikes a chord with me.
DO THE HARD WORK WHEN YOUR CHILDREN ARE LITTLE THAT WAY YOU AREN'T HAVING TO FIGHT HUGE BATTLES WHEN THEY'RE OLDER!!! AND QUIT GIVING THEM A SENSE OF ENTITLEMENT AND ALLOWING THEM TO DISRESPECT YOU AND ME. FROM NOW ON, MARK MY WORDS, IF YOU SEE ME AND YOU SEE CHILDREN BEING DISRESPECTFUL OF ME, MY FAMILY OR THE SURROUNDINGS I'M IN, I WILL SAY SOMETHING IF YOU DON'T!!!
Yesterday, I turned forty.
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